Quote Originally Posted by Misty is Kindafem View Post
Bulls-eye Reine.


I got news for the hets, being gay is a lot more than sex. I've said it before but a fantasy about sex with a man or even having sex with a man does not make you gay. However, if your fantasies lean more toward romance with a man then you may very well have homo tendencies. Think of it like this, if you have a quickie with a guy at a wild party, you may or may not be gay. But if you spend all afternoon shopping while holding hands and snuggle together during a movie, you're definitely gay or bi, whether you had sex or not.

Honesty is the key, and the truth will set you free.

-Misty
Misty:

I guess I could now be classified as bi. Yet I do not really feel that way. And in no way do I feel like I am refusing to carry the description because I see it as something I do not want to be. But in the above quote you actually describe the opposite of the way I now feel. I am still not attracted to guys. I do not really fantasize having sex with them. I do not check them out. Yet I have a pretty romantic arrangement with a guy. I have come to like him a great deal and feel attracted to him now.

But the true woman in me has gotten to like him because of his personality, patience, and understanding, not his looks or his gender or his physique as a man. I like the way he tries to please me and takes me out where I want to go. It is the way he treats me like a lady all the time. I like his brains, too. He never criticizes me or is embarrassed by me. Suddenly, all those physical traits in men that I find so disgusting (and still do about all other men) have gone out the window.

The sexual part, while I do not seek to downplay it, is really not that important to me. So even if I have a boyfriend, I do not feel I "can swing either way". It is just not that simple for me. And maybe there are those of us that just do not fit in the usual categories. To me, I am still heterosexual. My boyfriend feels the same way as he has no attraction to guys. And people can insist on labeling us anyway they want, but I could care less. I guess I am saying in the end it is how we feel about ourselves that really counts.