SarahGG -
You might want to check out the "location" of some of the members on here. All of us don't live in London or the UK for that matter. The states, for example NicholeScott's home of Mississippi, are not quite as accepting of "other" lifestyles as where you live.
I will also add this question to the "telling" list. What exactly is gained by a GG in being told of their spouse's CDing after 10, 20 30 yrs? The right to decide whether to accept it or not? Okay. But if you don't have a problem with it then how is it of any real value? Sure, sure. The open honest thing but I guarantee that every relationship has things that go "untold". Whether that is deceit or just conveniently forgetting to bring it up is just a matter of semantics.
You can't know if someone's keeping a secret from you, BECAUSE IT'S A SECRET! You aren't supposed to know. You can only believe they have told you everything.
As I just got through saying in another post here - with regard to telling your SO "your mileage may vary".
