Quote Originally Posted by SHINY-J View Post
Here I was handling all of my responsibilities at work and at home and being the manliest SOB she'd ever seen, and the lone statement that I USED to CD was enough to have her change her entire perspective of me. Don't believe me? Ask Rick Astley... Everyone loved his song until they found out he was a lanky white dude with red hair. Well, she loved me until she found out I had worn panties.
I hear you.

Anxiety about the CDing runs deep in our society, especially when it hits close to home. Have a look at this thread:

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...imple-Question...

You and other CDers have lived with the feelings inside yourselves for years, some of you for most of your lives, and you know first hand that you are OK, even though for some of you it was a struggle to gain self-acceptance and further, for some of you it took years. Other people need to overcome the same barriers in order to understand or even accept and even more so, since they have no first-hand knowledge of what it's like to be trans. And all these barriers are difficult to overcome because most things trans are still so deep in societal closets.

And if there are other issues in the marriage, if the couples don't have well-developed relationship skills, sadly the barriers are even more difficult to overcome.