Quote Originally Posted by Frances View Post
Aleshia Brevard is a stage and screen actress (television and films), among other acomplishments, who transitioned young and never told the public about her pre-transition years until fairly recently. She has written an autobiography (The Woman I Was Not Born To Be)
Jeez I can't believe this thread is still going!

Anyway I think the above quote brings up a good point Miss Brevard transitioned young so did not have a lot of the baggage that comes with being an adult like kids, current or previous marriage, old masculine career so on and so forth. God I wish I'd figured my self out 15 years ago but I didn't. I really don't see how I could successfully keep information like the existence of my kids or wife or the very masculine jobs I've worked from a prospective love interest. In my case not telling ever is simply not possible, there would just be way to many ways for said love interest to hear from someone else or simple put 2 and 2 together and figure it out on his own. So I personally would tell and would want to. I spent way to many years hiding who I was on a couple of fronts and would not want the liberation I have experienced to evaporate simply to allow someone else's false assumptions about gender to go unhindered. If this person decided they couldn't deal with that information then they were probably not a good match for me to begin with. The sad truth is that for a TS like myself, stealth is just not an option which will likely limit dating possibilities. That being said I'm not currently dating but have had several people interested in me 2 woman and 1 man all of whom Know of my status which is pre op so I guess I should have hope for the future if and when I start dating. This is my take on my personal situation this is not a lecture nor do I believe anyone else should feel the way I do. I think every TS has the right to go stealth if they feel that that is in their best interest. Who am I to tell anyone else how to live.