Quote Originally Posted by AKAMichelle View Post
I think the major deciding point is if you are prepared to live with the consequences of what will happen if someone finds out something without being told by you.
That question can apply to any traumatic event in someone's past. I was witness at the wedding of my two best friends whilst living in France. The (then) bride-to-be had been raped when she was a young child. Was she being deceitful by withholding that information? The (then) husband-to-be had fairly strong views on sex outside of marriage. She did eventually tell him before they were married, but only after I had managed to bring her to a point where she could accept that she was not responsible for what happened to her. By that time, they were very serious in their relationship, did she entrap him?

Quote Originally Posted by AKAMichelle View Post
The person you mentioned may not have told their husbands, but if the husbands found out would it have ended the relationship. If the answer here is "YES" then it was wrong to hide it from them. That person entrapped them with deceit.
That is one of the most sexist remarks I have read in this thread. Each of the husbands married a woman - not a man in any sense of the term, more to the point they married a person with whom they had a loving relationship. I do not know Aleshia Brevard, but unless you have proof that she went out of her way to persuade the husbands that they needed to marry her. then you have no justification for calling it entrapment.