Lying

[Rianna Humble]

I wanted to touch upon this concept since it pops up again and again. It is a myth that crossdressers get married with a malicious intent of springing their CDing on their new spouses after they are trapped. How many twentysomethings can plan a year ahead, let alone a decade or two?

You are the only person introducting the concept of malicious intent to "spring" CD'ing on someone.

How far ahead do you need to plan to know that you have been cross-dressing for the last 10 or 15 years? Form the introductions I have seen that is a low estimate for someone in their mid 20s.

The reality is that many of us weren't aware enough to understand what CDing was before marriage. Nobody knows every single nuance of themselves and we cannot express things we don't understand to our prospective spouse.

The vast majority of introductions here say something like "I have been cross-dressing since I was 6" although that age figure can vary by a coule of years either way. Are you honestly trying to tell me that someone who has been cross-dressing since that age and who is now in their 20s does not understand what cross-dressing is? I would buy the argument that many do not understand why they cross-dress, but I do not buy the argument that after 125 years you are unaware of what you are doing, or how you think about clothes.

Looking at the age thread, over half of us here are aged 50-70. The younger, most internet-savvy segment of the population is very underrepresented on this forum. Why aren't the youngsters here? Likely it's because they are confused about their feelings and haven't yet come to grips with the fact that they are CDers. These confused people are also the very same ones who are currently getting married!

I disagree with your reason why there are few 20 somehtings in this part of the forum, but I'm pretty sure that no-one in the Young Members' Forum is much over 25. My guess about why they are not posting so much in the main forum is that they get bored with the older members' threads. Either that, or maybe some are using Facebook to socialise with other CDs/TS's and don't feel the need of a specialised forum. In my experience, the younger cross-dressers and transsexuals have enough information to know that they are not freaks and also to know that they are unlikely to stop being CD or TS.

You can't really expect either twentysomething to say "Dear, why don't we put our wedding on hold for a decade or three while I sort out all of my little nagging internal issues?"

I don't know where you get this idea that you need to postpone your wedding for decades in order to be honest with your chosen spouse about an activity that you have already been doing for over a decade.