Quote Originally Posted by sometimes_miss View Post
I've only discussed it at length with one transsexual; and she didn't quite put it that way; it wasn't that being a man was so awful, simply that it wasn't 'right'. What I guess bothered me a little was that she had felt very much as I did when she was younger, but came to a different conclusion than I did about why it doesn't feel 'right'. I still wonder if she was right, and I was wrong. But I guess there's room in the world for both of our decisions.
Great observation i think!

Can i add that it seems the feeling of being not right is the CAUSE of the terrible sickening feeling... i never expected to have that feeling.. even tho i never felt right, i buried the feeling..

sometimes i wonder whether a persons view on this topic is more shaped by what they actually do about the feeling rather than the feeling itself...
it took that sickening feeling to make me admit that i didnt feel right and to do something about it...it took outside events to start the ball rolling...

i've noticed over the years that for many people, they don't wait for that sickening feeling..they have a good view of themselves and the confidence in their own thinking to move forward prior to really suffering...

btw..
there is room for both decisions, but i bet she isn't wondering anymore about herself, and you are...thats a big part of the choice..how much can you stand wondering?..