Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
...it sounds as if you're saying that unless your wife comes on board with you 100% you're outa there? Is this what "so be it" means? It might well take take your wife longer than you hope, before she catches up to you. You've known or have felt tendencies for years now, and this is all pretty much new to her.

Sorry if I'm misreading your "so be it", if so I apologize. But a relationship between a CDer and a GG who has difficulty with the CDing can only survive if they both are patient with each other while they both stretch. She stretches to try to understand her husband's needs, and he stretches by slowing things down until she has caught up.
Actually quite the opposite. I am saying that if it is 5 or 10 years of fighting, then that is what we will do. We will weather the storm the best we can until one of us buckles. Hopefully that won't happen.

Yesterday, she told me that Sierra mode is turned on 100% and my guy mode is gone. I attempted guy mode last night with our friends over, but once the Tequila came out, it was over. It was just in the words I used and my mannerisms. No voice or appearance changes. We had a long talk before I fell asleep and we cried a lot and I talked a lot without barriers. Tequila does that. I don't remember exactly what was said, but it was my overall true feelings so nothing too horrible should come of it.