Sierra, I have just been through what is probably the hardest thing I will ever face in my life. I lost my son and I so needed my "husband" to comfort and console me. He did his utmost best to be the "man" I needed him to be and continues to do so as the wound of my sons death is still fresh. I can honestly say that from your posts, God forbid something happen in your lives that your wife needs her "man" I don't think you are capable of putting your selfish side away, if only for a few weeks to be there for her. My heart goes out to her and you should thank your lucky stars and God himself for her being as supportive as she can be. I'm sorry if my reply is harsh but it's just my opinion based on your posts. I find you utterly selfish and self absorbed in your own wishes, wants, needs and desires. You have put your wife on the back burner so to speak and your lucky she hasn't left yet......All the best to you, your going to need it.
