Quote Originally Posted by Brynna M View Post
Your words sound like you are harboring a lot of contempt for your SO. Contempt is both self reinforcing and destructive... It sounds like CDing is a small part of your relationship problems.
That's what came through for me too. I don't know if you're just angry right now, Leona, but you've posted many biting comments on this thread, which don't make it sound like you like your wife very much. I can appreciate that, if she had you arrested for no good reason. But either you have to forgive her for that, or you might as well just leave. Marriage doesn't work if either spouse is continually jabbing the other one for some past misdeed.

Quote Originally Posted by Leona View Post
FFS may be in my future. Likewise, breast augmentation may also. But before either of these, we both have ****ed up teeth, and she wants a kid and I've had a vasectomy. So, priorities.
If you're not getting along and you don't trust and like each other, why would you even consider having children together? I'm confused.