You're still thinking about this in a weird way. Women don't want Paul Teutal Sr. Women come in a range of types, and they like a range of types. It's true that most women want their men to follow mostly male cues in our society, but I think most of us violate the gender binary from time to time without causing a scene. A little looseness around gender roles is probably fine for most women; but at some point it goes over a line and makes the woman lose her attraction to the guy.
In other words, it's fine for the guy to carry his wife's purse while they're shopping; but if he says he'd like one of his own, that's going to ruffle more feathers.