This weekend my sister-in-law came to stay with us because her marriage of 25 years is falling apart and she needed some refuge from the storm. It seems he complains that the passion is gone. They've lost the connection they once had. He makes soppy romantic gestures towards her and she doesn't respond. This depresses him so he locks himself in his office to cry. She finds that to be pathetic, weak and effeminate (her words) and it is repulsive to her.
So there you have it. An example of what can happen when you let down the mask of masculinity just a little bit. It's what every man has to think about before they go "integrating" any traits that can be perceived as feminine into their public persona.
