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Dizzy, you say
I say I am so tired of being a guy because I am suppose to fit into what the world says a guy should look like
I do agree with you but I also agree with wildaboutheels who points out that society won't change without our making it change. I don't have the gender dysphoria that many cds who want to transition have. I just don't understand why I have to live my life according to the very narrow gender definitions that sometimes seem to be the so called norm. But really, it's a lot weirder than we think. The extent to which you accept or incorporate gender definitions of masculinity or femininity has more to do with your idea of what's acceptable than what is actually accepted by society at large. American society is so incredibly diverse that you can push the boundaries as much as your courage will allow and remain safe as long as you use a small amount of common sense. It's probably not a good idea as a guy to get a drink in a biker's bar dressed as a French Maid, but even there I think you'd also have to be really obnoxiously aggressive to get in much trouble. People in the West are very accepting of deviance. I've lived in the Middle East and for a long time in the American South, and I assure you that Louisiana and Florida are beacons of tolerance compared to even a city as Westernized as Beirut.
I live in a small Florida town. Nobody dresses like I do. I do mean no man, btw. Obviously plenty of women do! I wear a mixture of male and female clothes all the time. I don't wear dresses out but I will wear stockings and tights. I wear short shorts and women's blouses. I wear make up, and I am not young. You know what? I think a lot of guys like it. I know a lot of women do, because they compliment me. About half as many times as women guys also compliment me, or give me a thumbs up. I get some disapproving looks but I have yet to have anyone insult me. Many people want to relax the rigidity of gender expectations about dress and probably about many other things. They just need people in all age groups and ethnicities to publicly push the boundaries. So push those boundaries as much as your courage and good sense will allow.
Because, if you don't, who will?
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