To quote a sign on the desk of a President, "the buck stops here". I don't mind fixing things, doing what has to be done, but way does the buck always stop with me. I don't remember seeing that it had to stop with me in the wedding vows. Why do I have to make all the difficult desicions? I like the one comment, You walk in the door, right away you hear, the dryer broke, so now I am the miracle worker? Is your finger broken that you can't call the service man, why do I have to be the one to call? Another comment, why is it the guys job to always initiate sex, if the girl wants it she should say so. If she was thirsty, would she wait until a drink was offered, or would she go and get a drink herself! I sometimes think that women live longer than men because they off load burdens onto the guy so he can carry them. Is this gender stereo typing or what? My generation has more than it's share of this.
I admit that I am into Cding more from the sexual side of things. I like to dress up and yea, I relieve myself occasionally at the same time. Why, STRESS relief, the stress of baring the burdens of life weighs you down, what could I do instead? Well there is eating, drinking, drugs, shooting something, yelling, beating on something, kicking the dog...all thing considered I would rather dress up and play with myself, it does less harm. Sorry I was not attempting to be crude.
We all have roles to play, sometimes they are of our own choosing, sometimes not. If Cding helps someone to get a break from the rigours of life, who am I to say no, you can't. One of the problems with this life is living up to anothers expectations, in marriage it is one thing, but in other relationships, it is another. Shouldn't a spouse be helping remove burdens by at least sharing the load, or by letting them CD if that is how they cope with the problems!
