Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
It might be a good idea to find a therapist if you can't find a CD support group. But the issue should be about improving the communication with your wife more than the CDing in itself. It sounds as if you know yourself well and what you need, but you don't feel you are getting it from your wife and because you want to keep the CDing private, it is difficult to share it with anyone
I will speak from my own experience about this. I've been in therapy for the last three years, starting with dealing with some long term trauma and when some of those issues became less current, we moved to talking about my crossdressing. For me, the hours of discussion about my need to dress and the motivations for that need have helped me to clarify the things that I could never articulate to my wife. I've had a general understanding about how I felt while dressed, but verbally expressing those feelings has been a challenge. My therapist has consistently challenged my lack of clarity in expressing my feelings, both about my crossdressing and my marriage in general. In the long run the biggest takeaway has been that I'm learning to accept how my personal tastes and needs fit into my overall identity. I'm learning that I'm not just a crossdresser but rather a very complex person who crossdresses.

Reine,
I see how often you take the time to give very well articulated points in your responses. You've been kind enough to write responses like this to at least one of my posts and I appreciate it. I actually wrote out three or four responses to your comments and ended up deleting them because many of the things you mentioned did not lend themselves to a public response and I am not comfortable having private conversations with other women about my marriage. I just wanted to acknowledge that I appreciated your well thought out response. Thank you.

We are fortunate to have you on the forum.