Jessica86,
I am very glad that your spouse is supportive and sees this as all no big deal. That does not
mean that everyone in a relationship feels this way, or that it is appropriate to the situation. Every post should be read as its own situation.
In this case, feeling betrayal is completely valid. I think everyone can agree that catching your spouse cheating with another woman is grounds for feeling betrayal. Lola has said when she saw him leaving the house she did not recognize him and thought she HAD caught another woman coming out. Now, add to that huge feeling of betrayal the confusion of "huh? That is my husband?" as well as emotions about him going out without Lola knowing... Let's be honest, if you don't want to let your wife knowing about your actions which she later finds out you are doing, you are probably expecting some bad reaction from
her and it is probably for good reason... And not necessarily something unreasonable.