Sigh. I avoided reading this thread until now. Now I know why. I should be working but I'm not. My wife's away and I'm reading this and she doesn't know what I'm doing. I'm not CD'd. I did that yesterday. I'm too tired today and this thread makes me yet more tired. I can put myself right into this situation and identify with virtually every poster including and especially Lola. How would I feel if it were me or how would my wife feel? Truly makes me want to stop Cding but I know myself much better than that. I can only say that I hope it doesn't poison a good relationship. I only hope that someday gender binary thinking becomes a thing of the past through education, so that future CD'rs aren't called CD'rs or thought of as any different than anyone else. Good luck Lola and don't forget your number one probably loves you very much.
