My experience is quite similar. I've dressed in the past, pretty much for what you would call fetish reasons. I started dressing with my current SO in an attempt to try to keep our sex life going. She went along reluctantly, and like so many people do in relationships, she did not communicate her feelings about this matter. Basically, I enjoyed it, she did not. But it did not end there.

I discovered that I really enjoyed dressing up out of the bedroom as well. At first it was just a few clothes, and no wigs, breast forms or makeup. Perhaps it was my fault as well that I did not listen to the fact that she was not into this or even enjoyed it, but I did it for a while and stopped.

And then I started again. I found that I really enjoyed dressing up and bought a wig. And then I tried makeup. And then I bought breast forms. And more clothes. And so it went.

I joined this forum because we were discussing where we could go together in the area we live while I was dressed. I learned I was not alone and in fact my dressing, at least for me and lots of others was perfectly normal.

After all was said and done, I found out she was not just a little uncomfortable with it, not just "taking some time getting used to it", but she thought it was creepy. I had a little bit of difficulty with this at first, but I did communicate my feelings about this.

I told her simply that this was something that happened for me and there was no turning back. I was not going to stop dressing and I could understand her feelings. Our intimacy will never return to this relationship, but it has nothing to do with me dressing up. She is accepting of my dressing up and a lot of times we hang out like two female room mates.

The reality was that dressing up in the bedroom brought out my desire to dress. My desire to dress was not part of my bedroom routine, but it took a while in life to realize this.

Perhaps this is the same in your situation.