"Didn't sign up for this"

[Babeba]

aok so lets say you married a nice woman and after a year or so of marriage she tells you she really doesn't like sex and never did and just had sex with you to get you because she was afraid if she told you that you wouldn't marry her?

She knew about it long before the vows and kept it secret because she did not know or suspected you wouldn't accept it.

For most men this would be a deal breaker. Starting a marriage on a lie is never a good way to begin.

Exactly! I see exactly where you are coming from and I agree that is a good analogy.

Edit:

Mimi, I didn't listen I on your conversation but from talking on here with you and Eryn I understood how a person who was TG could come out to their spouse of decades and have it be as okay as possible. I was definitely thinking of you two when I wrote that!

VS fan, I think from the sounds of it your marriage in regards to CDing is solid. I am sure she appreciates the heads-up, and loves many of the things about you that stem from the same place that makes you want to dress up. It's also very sweet that you don't push her out of her comfort zone with trying to get her to participate. In return, she seems as though she makes sure you have time to get those clothes dirty!