[SIZE="2"]Too bad I can’t see it. This is one of those threads where half the participants are being ignored by yours truly for one reason or another, mainly because it’s the same old “I’m miserable, and I hate you for being so happy” diatribe. Live and let live, I say. You keep wallowing in misery, and I’ll try to enjoy my crossdressing as best I can, under the circumstances that describe my world...Originally Posted by Lorileah
Dearest Lorileah - don’t you think that I KNOW the difference between a crossdresser, a transgendered person and a transsexual? I’ve been here a while now, discussing the same old topics over and over – maybe you’ve noticed me. This section is titled “Male to Female crossdressing,” which, I assume, attracts every male by birth who has ever chosen to wear women’s clothing, for whatever reason. I don’t know what the percentage is, and I don’t care, but there are obviously lots of males who IDENTIFY as males yet crossdress, and some of them actually write about their happy experiences. In this context, on a discussion forum for crossdressers, in a section dedicated to MtF crossdressing, it strikes me as being patently unfair to have TG and TS individuals criticizing what we enjoy doing. I don’t know what the author of the OP’s “orientation” is, and I don’t care – she’s sniping at her peers in an attempt to insert shame into the equation. I don’t see how this can be helpful, unless she is actively seeking to separate the wheat from the chaff, at least in her own confused mind, and feel like she’s accomplishing something good...
And, in doing so, she is pointing out that certain MtF crossdressers live in shame, and the latter have to start asserting themselves, the sooner the better. What support! What community! What a sense of belonging I feel whenever I log on to this site, and then peruse this section, where the TG’s are going to tell you what you’re doing wrong! I’ll tell you, if I was a newbie, trying my best to get in a little crossdressing now and then, I would log off and forget the whole idea once I came in contact with those who are obviously WAY superior to me. It ain’t fair. Certain people on this sight are NOT like me, not one little bit, but that doesn’t prevent them from jabbing me with a pointed stick from time to time. They even check up on me, perhaps to see if they’ve chased me away yet (I can see who visits my profile page, you know). Yup, it’s the same old batch of miserable bitches who just can’t stand it when someone is enjoying himself via crossdressing...
May I offer a suggestion? How about keeping your thoughts to yourself, unless they are meant to offer SUPPORT to all MtF crossdressers? Support, in this case, does not mean putting down people like me, who are simply crossdressing for pleasure – we exist, and we have a right to exist, and we also have a right to point out when we are being wronged by people who should know better. If this is what the “community” is like, it’s much better to be outside of it, if you ask me...
I keep thinking of an analogy, but few may understand it. I’m a professional artist of some repute, definitely not an amateur. In other words, I have a lot of expertise. I’ve been an artist ever since I was a young boy; in fact I just naturally became one. This is a little like knowing you’re transgendered since an early age, but bear with me. Let’s say I go on a discussion forum for artists, the majority of them amateurs, and there are lots of photos of amateur paintings with glaring mistakes, yet the artist is hoping for some encouragement. Granted, being an artist doesn’t carry the same stigma that being a MtF crossdresser does (especially in this place and time), but artists can sometimes be considered perverts by people who are bereft of sensibilities. In this instance, how WELCOME do you feel my acidic, critical comments would be, meant to either derail the amateur or point out that they need to start thinking seriously about what they’re doing? “Get out and paint before a live model, go to art school, get some decent materials, stop kidding yourself...” and so forth. This would theoretically make me feel better, I suppose, but, since I have a conscience, I do not wish to hurt the feelings of the amateur artist, so I would not “come down” on them in this manner. At the end of the day, what YOU’RE trying to do is not the same as what I’m trying to do, OK? Also, I choose to crossdress, and you may not, so please factor that into the equation...
I think I may have written the longest post somewhere along the way, but I’m not going to look at post #71 and see if I’m right. BTW, this has been discussed before, but I ignore certain people to avoid flame wars. The way things are around here, it can be a lot like shoveling water uphill, and I have better things to do with my time. There are obviously a lot of nice TG MtF crossdressers, but there are a few who denigrate the “amateurs” and bring us all down...
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