I am sorry you have not had more responses from GGs.

Whilst all these modifications may have been small beer to you, you may like to reflect on your wife and childrens' situations.

I am currently in one of these modification periods. It isn't funny. If I try to discuss it, I am cut short, or he even denies, although I am standing there looking at the most recent modification....

When he prefers not to discuss it, he seems to think it doesn't matter. To me it is a kind of dishonesty, not just that another modification has come my way but I am supposed to ignore it....
To me this is a trust issue. You make light of your wife's responses and seem only to look at the relationship from your point of view.
Of course, you would like to remain with her. But she has plans too. They involve the man she married, not the woman he wants to become.

My husband says 'you can't see the changes most of the time...!' Or am I not entitled to a view? I currently have about 15% of the man I started with. That's not enough for me. Of couse I want him to be happy, but why doesn't he want the same for me?

I am shocked at how different his body looks without hair. The shape is completely different. The aged, uncared-for skin is scaly and lined. His hands and nails look ridiculous. I don't want a 'lesbian' partner.

I feel stupid now that I supported the clothing, makeup etc. I thought that was all there was. Not what I have now.

Women can sense that there is something going on. Often you try to be distant, to cover your cding tracks, but that just makes things worse.

Counselling might be a revelation. It would give your wife the opportunity to tell you how she really feels. You would have to confront that disdain etc

Older children are also very good at picking up on things. Their social lives get more varied and you may find you do not have so much time to dress at home.

Ask yourself seriously why you have pushed things so much. Your wife seems to have been sympathetic to your dressing, so why have you taken advantage so much? This is not a loving way to behave.

She will draw her own conclusions no matter how reassuring you want to be. If you really loved her, you would tell her the truth.