Thanks, Sally. I was not suggesting that one choice is more or less courageous than the other. My point was, if a TG/middlepather chooses to live as a man who expresses femininity occasionally, the bottom line is that this is the TG's choice and so why pine away? Why place all the responsibility on Loved Ones for choosing to not transition, when the TG also gains benefit from not transitioning, in other words, it is the TG's choice?
One of my fundamental beliefs is, we can choose how we will look at things. It's a glass full or half empty situation. We can choose to worry or not worry, to be jealous or not be jealous, to trust or not to trust, to let go of anger, disappointment, or not let go, etc. And our moods and behaviors will follow your thoughts. It's not the other way around. So if a TG makes a conscious decision that s/he will maintain a male life which also means that s/he reaps some of the benefits, then why decide to pine away for something that s/he herself decided to not pursue? Why not instead celebrate every moment of life, whether the moment is spent in guy or girl mode?
Of course, if she is TS then it will not be possible. But then if she is miserable living as a man, how miserable must her family members be while living with her?
I only intimately know how my SO feels and how she has chosen to live her life and the question I raise above is based on my direct observation of my SO, who also looked into HRT, FFS, transition, and having relationships with men in the past. It just seems that my SO is a lot happier having decided on a course of action and taking pleasure in all aspects of his and her life following this decision, than someone who decides on the same course of action and dooms themselves to forever having insatiable desires for a state of being that s/he herself has decided to not pursue.
