Quote Originally Posted by Becky Blue View Post
When this kind of feelings develop later and you have vested years into a marriage and children etc etc the stakes are a LOT higher and a LOT more caution is required as the worst case scenario is a lot worse.
This is part of what I have been saying. I am just adding that in such a scenario, one must factor in the delta between damage done by "Honey, we need to talk about something," and an inadvertent discovery.