Kelly,
It sounds like he's in full defensive mode currently.
My guess is that all you can do now is try to open the lines of communication without pushing him away.
The ball is in his court. If he can't find a way to reach out to you, you may have to reconsider the relationship.
I'd give it more time.
Also a tip a therapist told me once (and assuming that he has no substance abuse history).....get him tipsy over a bottle of wine or drinks, while you stay relatively sober. Now gently probe him over these issues, and you might see some interesting information come forth. It's worth a try.
Good luck,
Chris
