I'm sorry you're in so much pain
And is it common for a therapist to insist the client is transexual when the client says otherwise? I find this strange, but maybe her job is to see what you won't? Do you think you'd transition if you weren't married? Can someone ever really repress such a thing?
Your wife sounds like an amazing, strong woman (as do you!) and I hope you can continue to figure this out together x
