Val you are not pathetic at all. There is lots going on with you and it is okay to feel over whelmed. I know society tries to tell us that as guys we shouldn't feel that but I learned long ago that is is okay to recognize when things tend to get too much. By recognizing that simple thing it helps me to stay focused and not let it all spiral out of control.
As for the therapist you saw I can't believe that is what she said on your very first meeting! While what she said could be true, it seems odd to come out with that on your very first session. I agree to shop for another therapist but don't fall in to the trap of finding the one that re affirms your own beliefs. If you go through a few therapists and the general concensus is the same you really need to look at what they are saying
