MsVal,
You always hope you are going to pick the right time for talking but there never is, and you go over in your own mind what to say but doesn't always come together the way you planned. The important point is you are still talking and are still together and hopefully will remain so.
Therapy is available in the UK both through the NHS and privately, I did two private sessions but as my wife refused to attend the third I stopped the sessions. His basic idea was if it wasn't a secret it wouldn't be a problem, I also felt that on a sliding scale Cding was a minor issue and so he treated it with a certain amount of flippancy, for that I paid £180.00. He did take my suicidal thoughts more seriously and instructed my GP to put me on Prozac. Therapy can either take you down a road you shouldn't be on and leave you with more doubts about yourself than you started with or end up with a YES-YES session where you're all ticking the same boxes and end up with medical confirmation that you are a CDer.
I'm sorry if I sound sceptical ,therapy is not as common in the UK as it is in the US and Canada and I'm sure some will say it's done a wonderful job and I would be happy for them.
MsVal please don't feel weak and pathetic, men need to cry, when I first told my wife it felt like I was shedding a millstone in my tears, in all my years I have never sobbed so deeply, it just needs to come out !
