Kim
I think that one of the most difficult things for a woman would be that everyone knows. Her friends know, her neighbors, know and her work colleagues know. And while they all know, they don't know the difference between homosexual, CD, TG, TS, etc., and even then, it might not make much difference. This is how it might sound, "Oh, my husband is not gay, he just likes to dress up in women's clothes."
That leads us to what I call the "Hillary (Clinton) Problem", as in "How can she stay married to him?"
Lastly, I think you can wear a women's costume on Halloween maybe once every 10 years. At one job, the cafeteria worked dressed in costumes for Halloween, and this one guy dressed up as a woman, but more like a parody, think Milton Berle or Bob Hope. Funny the first time. The next year he did it again. I couldn't have been the only one who noticed.
Your wife is so understanding the rest of the year. I can understand her concern about dressing as a woman for Halloween.
So, I have two suggestions.
You could always pretend that you are a woman disguised as a man (a la Shakespeare).
You could got to a Halloween party sponsored by a CD/TG group in Austin. That way you could have the fun of putting a Halloween costume together, yet wear it in a "safe" environment.
Or, you could dress as Capt Jack Sparrow. At least then you would get to wear eye liner.
Steffi
