Kelly,
I may not have been very clear. What I meant was I dont blame SO's (you) when you can't accept us (cders). Sorry about the confusion. Believe me, I'm on your side.
For what it's worth, I think you're dealing with something beyond crossdressing here. I've crossdressed for a long time, and, from reading posts on here and elsewhere for a long time, I'd say I'm pretty typical (althought that covers a lot of ground). MOST of what you dexcribe is very different from me. The clothing is just an adjunct. My very non-professional diagnosis is... this is a mess.
I wouldn't have any idea how to start making this better, and I AM a crossdresser!
